Obssesively controlling mother? help?
My mom is really caring, helpful and supportive when she’s in a good mood. But her habits piss me off so much and makes me so mad.
Sometimes I would drop a piece of paper on the floor, and she would SCREAM at me for being messy and a slob. And sometimes she folds clothes for me, and if I dont come downstairs to get it in the next 5 seconds, shell yell and yell at me for not appreciating her "hard" work. She cares about the LITTLEST things, and picks and picks on you.
Also, if I try telling her she made a mistake/make her say sorry, she starts rambling about how she gave up her youth for me?? How she’s a slave in our house and she works so hard ( all she does is drive me to school and cook, when my dad makes all the money.) Her chores are SOOO easy and she thinks shes so important. She obviously lacks motivation to start finding a job, so she’s in a bad mood all the time. And when she talks she qoutes these things and tries to sound like an important phliosopher, even though she never accomplished anything in her life. She tells me Im fat and I should stop eating like a pig. What kinda mom says that to her kid?
What do I do about her?? It’s impossible to respect her, and she just gets worse and worse by the day….
It sounds like your mom may suffer from OCD. However, She is also trying to teach you responsibility. This is no excuse to call you a slob or lazy. You’re mom had to have given up a lot for what she thought was best for you, if she says she gave up her youth for you. It sounds like she lacks some maturity. This is resulting in you resenting her. Maybe you should take the high road, respect her wishes, respect her. Believe me, housechores are very important and when you do them on a daily basis, it takes a lot of motivation. Cooking & Cleaning is a full time job. I’ve seen houses that didnt have someone cleaning it daily/weekly- it is horrible! Appreciate her for that atleast. Go make something of yourself, then you can insult her. Although I hope by then you will have the maturity & knowledge not to bash her for choosing to be a stay at home mom, and hopefully you will understand how hard and very important it is.
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